Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm a 56-year-old single woman dating a 59-year-old man for almost a year. It's a long-distance thing, so we try to see each other as often as we can because it's only a four-hour drive. He will even spend the night with me and get up before daybreak to drive back home so he can go to work. I've met his mother, children, grandchildren, and some of his close friends. I'm known around his city as his woman. He professes his love for me on Facebook, and he introduces me as his wife.
After Christmas, I asked him if he really planned to marry me, and he said that he is almost ready to pop the question. However, he needs to end a couple of situationships with other women before he can fully commit to me. He said that because we don’t sleep side by side every night, he has some “place fillers” for me.
He said the women know about me and respect our relationship. It was hard for me to accept this news because he’s always treated me like the only woman in his life. Our relationship has been downhill, and it hit rock bottom the other day when he asked me to ride to Louisiana with him to see his son. I had a presentation at work, so I couldn’t go. That’s when he told me he was going to ask another woman to ride with him. He said she's a good friend and they used to have sex, but he's my man now, so that's in the past.
He said I need to trust him more, but he will always give me my respect as the number one woman in his life. So, what he does in his free time isn’t a big deal.
Is he a waste of time? Can he be a one-woman man?